Musings about life and love

Life is a journey wherein you acquire more wisdom as you go further.

Being in a volunteering program for 6 months, going to a foreign country, meeting new people and meeting old friends again, and staying in it for a few months had totally made a difference. I have my ups and downs while walking through the first phase of the program but one thing constant is the learning I acquire in each stop.

I learned that experience is still the best teacher. I’m writing about love as I usually do. It’s amazing to see what I have written before and contemplate on them. I’ve had twisted ideologies about love when I was in high school. I came to a point where I have thought of having love relationships are crap because of my heart breaks. Then I found out that there is no point in sulking around.

I’m quite okay now with the fact that I’ve had past relationships because I have learned what my failures are, what my shortcomings are in those experience. I’m happy to have talked about love and their loved ones with some people wherein I realized every person’s love story is unique so I should not even try comparing myself.

I believe in the saying, “The heart must have its time of snow, to rest in silence and then to grow.” My heart is now resting in silence, enjoying singlehood. I sometimes think of breaking that silence but I know forcing it will be like suicide. Right timing is essential. It means I’m not the one who could make it. That would be considered forcing. I must let everything grow in its own time. “Everything happens in its own season”.

I should wait patiently and while waiting, try to become a better person for that special someone. When I say being a better person for that special someone, I mean being the best you can be where you stay true to your heart and yourself. That, I think, is the only way to become the best that you can be as a person, by enriching your personality or your character. It might require you to perfect your skills or acquire new skills. It might require you to accept new beliefs and or discard your beliefs.

I’m not being idealistic or anything because I am aiming to be more open-minded as time goes. I just think that when true love comes, everything would fall into their rightful places. It might not be obvious at the beginning, you might even find yourself questioning about a lot of things, but I’m quite sure once it’s there you will find the words compromise or sacrifice is not as cumbersome as it seems.

Secret of the Magic Gourd

'There's nothing more satisfying as you gain success and know that it's all because you worked really hard for it.' Morning of 8 February 2009. After eating breakfast, I decided to switch on the telly since I was a bit lazy to start doing laundry. I turned to Disney Channel. The film ' The Secret of the Magic Gourd is just about to start. After a few seconds of consideration, I decided to sit down and finish watching the film first before doing my laundry. The movie tells the story of a young 11-year-old boy named Raymond. He seems to be someone who has vivid imagination but not a lot of motivation. His family, classmates, and teacher are frustrated with his lack-of-dedication attitude. He is someone who wishes he could have everything that he wants even without lifting a finger. One day, while fishing, he reels in the legendary Magic Gourd -- a powerful vegetable who can grant any wish that his heart desires, as long as Raymond doesn't tell anyone about him. The Gourd gave him the things that he wanted and helped him achieve his goals. It isn't long before he discovers (after a series of mishaps) that getting everything you want isn't all that great. The boy learned his lesson the hard way. He already brought shame to his family and embarrassment to himself. Decided to change everyone's view of him, he decided to turn over a new leaf and start working to achieve his own success. The film inspired me to work harder and it helped me reflect on my performance as a person. It sounds great if you could just have all your wishes in a flick of a finger but I think you might end up having a lot of insecurities and guilt. I believe films for kids teaching good morals could still serve as an inspiration or learning tool for adults.